Dear Girls, What’s the deal with boys? I am sure you must have read my post on A Letter to All Girls, Ladies, and Married Women. I am a teenage girl, I understand your interest in them, but what really goes on behind their witty comments and pick-up lines? Let’s look at what boys really want when they come so hard on you with their “love stories.”
What’s the deal with boys? Well, from my perspective as a teenage girl, I believe that this is the topic that must discussed.
When those feelings start coming in, they hit girls hard in the face. Sometimes, girls are looking for boys to mess around with. Other times, they are just minding their own business and it just comes. You can’t really control your mind’s responses to others, but you can control your actions. The thing that girls don’t realize is that it’s not the same with boys. Boys may like you, or think they like you but it’s all lust. Why?
Because their hormones are racing everywhere and they aren’t really thinking of anything else but sexual appeal.
Phases of Falling in Love
There are seven phases before a man falls in love.
- Phase one to phase five is just about the guy chasing the girl, and trying to get her to fall in love with him.
- At phase six he decides whether or not he wants to keep you even though by then he would have made you head over heals in love.
- Phase seven is the final decision of whether he loves you. Guard your hearts girls; it’s not all roses.
The reality is that some will end up happy and others heartbroken just because of a teenage boy who is just doing what he does by nature. It’s especially worse in teenagers because they honestly have not sat down to think about what they want in a girl. They see a pretty face, and a rocking body and they are already flying at her before analyzing her personality.
By the time they get to phase six, and they realize that they don’t like her morals or her character, the girl has already fallen in love and he’s breaking up.
Should you be a teenager and be dating? No. You aren’t going to get anything out of it except a break-up which just leads to uncomfortable interactions from there on.
Girls, think about it this way; you’re too young to get married, so what happens once one of you is tired, your parents find out, or you get into a big fight. You just don’t have the conflict resolution skills to sort it out.
It’s time you get your priorities right. If he is in love with you, it will come naturally, but if he is just infatuated with your beauty, your body, and everything outward about you, it’s just a matter of time before that lust fades away. Please don’t be the OBJECT of his experiment.
Walk with dignity, put your fragile heart into the hands of God through Jesus Christ, and TRUST in Him wholeheartedly, and He will direct your paths.
Please be smart. Remember your morals. Abide by the Lord.